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There are many different kinds of energy that can be disowned but one of the more powerful groupings in western culture are the ones we refer to as instinctual energies. The blocking of selves that are related to these energies causes no end of difficulty in our lives because we don’t have a connection to our natural aggression, to the expression of our emotions and feelings and to a natural survival energy that understands the need to take care of ourselves in the world. Instead, the selves that develop often have to do with being nice, overly responsible, overly sensitive, identified with the mind and also with spirituality. How the unconscious as expressed in the dream process reacts to these disowned instinctual energies is what this article is about.

A young woman who is identified with new age spirituality has the following dream: “I am going down some stairs that lead from my kitchen to the basement. In the basement, much to my surprise, I discover many cages and inside the cages are lions all of whom are sound asleep while new age music plays in the background.”

There is a profound intelligence that lives within us that is constantly trying to help us balance things out in our psyche. The “you” in the dream is most often the primary self and generally gives us a good picture of how the primary self behaves in the world. Less often the “you” is the disowned self and then we are doing something totally counter to our usual way of doing things. For example, a very controlled man dreams that he is driving a car very fast and very out of control. This would be an example of the disowned self breaking through in a dream, something that happens infrequently in dreams but typically in daydreams.

The image of lions being lulled to sleep with the aid of new age music is both profound and humorous as the same time. The dream makes its point with great clarity and speaks to the awareness level of the dreamer to help wake her up from her own unconscious sleep state. Whenever we do not have access to awareness and to some level of the Aware Ego process, we are living in some kind of sleep state, just like the dreamer’s lions.

How different life would be if these lions woke up and their energies became available to her as they were thoughtfully and carefully let out of their cages and allowed their freedom. The dream paints a portrait of her relationship to new age spirituality that is very clear and precise and gives her clear direction on what she needs to work with – her separation from those selves that are connected to her new age spiritual identification, as well as her need to learn how to use in a conscious way the new lion energy that would be available to her.

On a similar note, a deeply spiritual woman whose connection was to her church had the following dream: “I dream of angels. There were many, all surrounded with light. Some of them are carrying lilies, some palm branches. Their faces are radiant. They were all straining upwards. Suddenly there is a long table. Seated around it are all kinds of evil looking creatures masked and in black. The scene is like the Last Supper and the one in the center of the table says ---- Don’t forget us! We’re here too.”

People often think of their communication as a framing process. The unconscious at times is the master framer. It does not make her spirituality wrong. It simply re-frames it in relationship to the dark side, to the disowned instinctual energies. It puts these energies at the table of the last supper to make sure that she understands that both the angels on the one side and the dark and evil looking creatures on the other side are both part of her spiritual nature.

Our last example is that of a man who attended one of our European conferences. He had been working with a spiritual teacher for many years but he was feeling a good deal of discontent because his own male power/instinctual energy was emerging and creating conflict in the spiritual community of which he as a part. He had the following dream about his teacher: “ I’m exploring the compound of my teacher. I see that in this compound children are being trained to kill animals.”

This was a remarkable dream to us, to the group and especially to the dreamer. It does not say that his training was bad. What it points out so clearly is that in this training, his feelings ( children ) are being trained to kill the animals, his instinctual nature. The dream had a very strong impact on the dreamer and he discontinued his studies with the teacher within a very short period of time.

We personally do not appreciate the emphasis on spiritual training that governs so much of the consciousness community. We prefer to speak about psycho-spiritual development. The name itself makes clear that transformational work requires that we move on the path of the snake, a path that is forever interweaving between psychological, emotional and physical reality on the one side and our spiritual nature on the other. From our study of the dream process it is clear that the higher mind that directs this process wants us to be in balance and requires that we embrace all of our selves.

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Issue 7 October 2003

Susan is a powerful woman; a successful, self-made, independent woman and proud of it. She is someone who is clearly in charge of her life. Susan is judgmental of people who are weak, sensitive, or needy. She thinks of them as “wimps who are unable to stand on their own two feet”.

Early one morning, Susan is awakened by a very disturbing dream image and try as she might, she cannot get it out of her mind. She dreamt that she was in her kitchen getting ready to cook dinner. When she opened her refrigerator, she was horrified to find a very young child curled up in the back of the top shelf. This child was blue – perhaps frozen to death – and had apparently been there for some time. Susan knew that this was her fault, that this infant had been her responsibility.

Why does Susan have a dream like this? What does it mean?

This dream is a wake up call. It is a direct message from her unconscious to tell Susan that she is neglecting an important part of her life. She is neglecting her own vulnerable inner child. As she goes about her life in the world – a world that is basically not kind to vulnerable children – she has left her own vulnerability behind. While the outer Susan seems to be flourishing, an inner Susan is alone and freezing.

Susan, like the rest of us, needed to learn to live in this world. It was important to find ways of protecting her vulnerability by developing a powerful personality made up of her primary selves (as we describe in our Voice Dialogue video series and in our books) or she would have grown up a victim, totally at the mercy of others and not able to deal with the harshness of life. So she neglected this inner vulnerable child (basically “put her on ice”) while she was building her life, going to school, learning how to be successful in the world, and establishing herself professionally. But now, Susan’s soul needs are coming forward, and her unconscious is clearly telling her that it is time to go back and to pick up what she left behind. The message is compelling; the image is lodged firmly in her mind.

When we talk about vulnerability or this vulnerable inner child in our work, we are not talking about weakness. What we are talking about is the basic sensitivity of all human beings. We humans are a finely tuned species. Most of us know very little about the fineness of this inner tuning. But all of us are amazingly sensitive to the world around us - particularly to other people and their moods and to the ambience of our physical surroundings. We respond with attraction or with discomfort and repulsion. We respond with warm, safe feelings or with anxiety, fear, and loneliness

If you know about your vulnerability – or this sensitivity - you can take care of it yourself consciously and with choice. Otherwise, it will be cared for unconsciously or automatically in your relationships. These relationships can be with spouses, parents, children, friends, colleagues, workers, bosses, teachers, political leaders, or pets. It can even be cared for unconsciously - by your computer or your TV.

All of us can be manipulated through this vulnerability and the “spin doctors” of the world know very well how to do this. Advertising people use our vulnerability to sell products. First they make us vulnerable by making us afraid of being inferior or unloved. Then they give us the solution – everything from sweeter breath and better soap products, to Hummers (military-type cars), to larger breasts or penises. Our politicians are playing upon our vulnerability just now by emphasizing danger. And, just like the advertising people, once they make us vulnerable, they come forth with a solution – their own agenda.

Why is this important? As we say in our Voice Dialogue video series - and in all of our books - caring for one’s own vulnerability is indispensable for anyone who wants the freedom of choice in life. It is also the very foundation for a good relationship. This is so important that we devote sections of our books and the videos to this vulnerability and to some of the ways in which you can care for your own.

If you are not aware of your own vulnerability and you don’t take care of it consciously, you have unconsciously placed your sensitivities and needs in the hands of others and - in the deepest sense - you’re very vulnerable in life. Paradoxically, i t is embracing this very vulnerability, this fine tuning, that can help you to enjoy life – to appreciate beauty, to feel wonder, to enjoy silence and “being” time, and to make the deepest and most delicious intimate connections with others.

Holiday season is a special season for many of us – and it’s particularly special for certain of our inner selves. It’s a wonderful time for the inner Responsible Parents, the Pushers, the Extraverted Party Person, the Event Planners, the Generous Givers, the Loving Caretakers, and the Pleasers. These have a great time – usually for the entire month of December.

And then, there’s January ….. for many people a time for the letdown, the exhaustion, and for catching up on everything that did not get done in December. Many times, the post-party time brings with it a sense of overwhelm and general irritability. For others, January is a time of renewal, a time to review our goals and make new resolutions for the year ahead. It feels like a fresh start.

In this month’s “tips”, we decided to take a look at the Holiday Selves – those wonderful selves that give us a great time in December but never think about January. We’d love to see you have your cake and eat it too – to be able to enjoy the holidays completely, but without the following month’s letdown. How can you go about it?

The January letdown is just another example of what we call “the slap”in our book Partnering, and in the videos and CDs of The Voice Dialogue Series. It’s the reaction we get when we let one self make an important decision without getting input from the opposite side.

The secret in life is not what you do, but who does it. Each of us has our own particular set of primary selves – the selves that “drive our psychological cars”and make most of our daily decisions. If one of these selves makes a decision – any decision – we are likely to get the slap at some point further on down the line from an opposite (or disowned) self. Let’s look at some of the inner selves we mentioned in the beginning to see how this works.

If the Responsible Parent takes over in December, it might sound something like this: “I’m a responsible kind of person and I truly love being in charge. I have lots of energy and it’s not a problem for me to run everything. I know I’ll do it right; but I’m not so sure about what the next guy is going to do. The holidays are important, too important for me to leave the planning to someone else.”People are usually pretty happy to let this kind of Responsible Parent take care of everything. If this is the part of us that does the holiday, we have a great deal of energy during December, but when everything is over, the opposite self emerges. It’s the less responsible self, one that can delegate and believes that others are perfectly capable of handling responsibility. The slap from this self might sound like: ”How could you tell the others not to worry about the cleanup? You did all the preparation. How could you encourage them to just relax – if they had all pitched in, which they are perfectly capable of doing - everything could be done by now and you wouldn’t be faced with this mess! You are such a sucker; I can’t believe that you let them get away with this!”

When the Pusher takes over, there is a great rush of pride in how much gets done. Later, the slap may come in the form of: “You did what?? That’s way too much. It just wasn’t worth it.”

How about the Party Person? “I like to work hard and play hard! I look forward to the holiday season all year! It’s my time to be with others and to play. It’s great not to have a care in the world for a couple of weeks. I think of it as my reward.” The slap on the other side might be: “You were so excited that you didn’t finish up here and you didn’t think of planning for your return. Now look at the mess you have to clean up.”Or: “In all the excitement, you forgot to pay your property taxes. You’ve missed the deadline and now it’s going to cost you a big penalty. You just weren’t paying attention - this didn’t have to happen!”

And the Pleaser or Generous Giver: “For me, the holidays are the best time of the year. I love all the hustle and bustle and it makes me so happy to get just the right present for everyone. I just love making this time of year special. It gives me such pleasure to see others happy.”The slap here is your inner Scrooge, who is less than happy when the bills arrive.

What can you do to avoid the slap that follows the holidays? You drive your own psychological car. Try to consult your inner opposites before you make your decisions. Listen to your:

-“Expert at Letting Others Do It”as well as your “Do it All- Responsible Parent”

-“Inner Scrooge (or the Bill Payer)”as well as your “Generous Giver”or “Pleaser”

-“Cautious Planner”as well as your “Party Person”

-“the Beach Bum who’d rather go away to Hawaii than do the holidays”as well as your “Pusher who can accomplish miracles”

- “the Spiritual Self who would like to feel the meaning of the holidays”as well as “the Extravert who loves the parties and the excitement”

Last, but not least, ask yourself: “What would make me happy this year? How might I be cared for?”as well as listening to the selves that only know how to care for others: your “People Pleaser”and your “Caretaker”.

In this way, your decisions will be more balanced, they come more from you rather than from a self. The slap will be avoided as well as a good part of the annual January letdown.

We wish you Happy Holidays and may your New Year be blessed.

Hal & Sidra Stone

You are not what you seem to be. Or, perhaps more accurately, you are far more than you have ever experienced yourself to be. Within you right now, exist undreamed of talents and abilities. They are simply waiting for the correct call, to bring them to the surface and enrich your life in a way that will thrill and amaze you. These are called the "selves", and they are all individual structures within your personality. Understand them and you will forever have the key to successful relationships.

When you were born, you were completely vulnerable, a helpless infant, dependent upon others to feed, clothe, protect and nurture you. When you were properly cared for, you were filled with joy. Your little being radiated unconditional love. In fact you are still today radiating unconditional love, because it is what you are at essence. But your ability to express real love has been severely suppressed by what has happened to you.

As you grew, you realised, through direct experience, that the world was not filled with unconditionally loving beings. Many people, including those close to you, were stressed and expressing negative emotion. The daily chores were too much for them, or they were not particularly intelligent and, in their own minds, they were losing at the game of life.

In this state they became despondent, angry and full of pain. They may have tried to hide it from you, but you, with your young mind, could see what was really going on. Or they may have even used you as a dumping ground for their negativity and frustrations. You may have been abused, physically or psychologically. As well, you found that the world itself was full of dangers, not only from the natural world, but also from the products of civilisation.

You had to defend yourself. You did this by building up a shield in your system, that became your protection for your survival and well being. This protective covering was both positive and negative and everything in between. It was what you used to express yourself, it was the mask you wore, and still wear to this very day. And it is this mask that you still communicate through in all your relationships.

Because of its familiarity, you feel it is the person you actually are. But the word 'mask' comes from the word 'persona', which you experience as your 'personness' or 'personality'. Your personality is just a mask worn by the Self. It is your identification with the personality rather than the Self which creates a duality rather than an integrity in your system. There is nothing right or wrong about this, it is just the way life works.

The key for you is to understand it and embrace all of it, and by doing so integrate yourself and so move to what you truly are. This reintegration is the great opportunity of relationship. And only this will give you excellent relationships. All problems in relationship arise because people hang onto identifying with, and protecting, the personality, rather than the Self. It blocks their ability to feel real love.

Your personality is a multi-faceted faculty. It is made up of many different parts, each with its own identity and individuality. You can see this multitude of different selves in your own life. The way you relate to your lover is different to the way you relate to your parents or friends. The way you relate to your boss is different to the way you relate to your siblings. The energy you feel when you are making love is different to the one you express when you are playing sport or studying for an exam.

Previously, it was thought that these were just different expressions of one personality structure, but now we know, thanks in particular to the work of Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone, that there are myriads of actual individual structures called "subpersonalities", that, together, make up what we refer to as the personality.

It is the force of survival that builds your personality. For the first few months of your life, you believe you actually are your mother. This is because you have been in her womb, hearing her voice, feeling her emotions, living there through all her actions and interactions. To your baby mind, you and she are one. She was not only the source of your life she was the sustainer of your life, with her feeding, caring and nurturing of you. When you were in her arms, if she rejected any behaviour you expressed, or even if she was worried about something, and was not giving you unconditional love, it felt like death to you.

And anyone else who did not treat you with love was also a threat. So you started the process of building a defence structure around your vulnerability. It was the only way you could live, in the jungle of life. This is the ordinary development process of every human being. And it affects your whole life.

From infancy onwards, you tried a continual variety of behaviour patterns and modes of self expression. Some of these are rejected, by those who bring you up, some are accepted and appreciated. It is these latter which you eventually retain. For instance, if you were praised by a parent for great school work, that spells security and survival to you, so you keep that behaviour of a good student. It becomes a "self".

If you express anger and that is frowned upon or you are punished for it, then you avoid expressing anger as it threatens your survival. It is still a 'self', but it is suppressed, maybe bursting to the surface at inopportune times.

Each mode of expression you have is an individual self. You have several different selves, such as a Perfectionist, an Analyst, an Inner Critic, a Pusher, a Clown, a Slave, a Pleaser, an Aggressor, a Manipulator, a Couch Potato, a Playful one and so on.

You also have those multitude of selves which you tried to express, but they were rejected. These are called "disowned selves". They still live in your subconscious, motivating you, because that which you disown and suppress, you bring into your life. If you find someone fascinating, it is because you have an identical self within you, which is buried.

For instance, a very hard-nosed businessman, who has suppressed his feminine self, with its gentleness, caring and sensitivity, will find himself fascinated and strongly attracted to a very feminine woman, who has never expressed her tough, ruthless side. She too, will find him attractive, because he represents to her, everything she is disowning in her own personality. (We have a quiz for you at the end of this article, so you can discover what it is you are suppressing within yourself).

How to have a Successful Relationship

Before you can successfully relate with another person at a deep and meaningful level, you need to become conscious of which of these selves you are expressing, at any particular time. For they are the actual parts of you, which you relate with, in your relationship. This may require a radical leap in your thinking, but it is the only solution to understanding other people.

Nobody is a single personality. If you believe that, then you will be unprepared when your partner suddenly starts to express themselves in a totally different way. Sometimes, when a partner does this, it seems almost as if a new person is in the relationship with you. Which, in a way, is in fact true, because each subpersonality is a person it itself. It can be a shock, a surprise or a relief, to find there is more to your partner than you originally realised.

Interestingly, many solicitors, specialising in divorce, say the most common remark people give about their partners, when asking for a divorce was: "I never really knew they were like that underneath “.

Their partner had suddenly started to express themselves in a new and different way, and the person did not realise it wasn't that they were really like that", but that they were merely expressing another self. They were no more that self than the original one they were expressing. They did not understand this, and thought they had married the wrong person. Had they hung on, using correct processes, that would have passed and more subpersonalities would have arisen.

In a long term relationship, the expression of all parts of a person is encouraged. Instead of this being a difficulty, it becomes a great benefit to you both. You are not going to be stuck with some one dimensional lemon all your life. The person you are with, whether they realise it or not, is filled with a vast smorgasbord of selves, each one a whole person in itself, with all its uniqueness and behaviours. Many of them are deeply interesting and fun filled. Others are serious and sad. Some are young and old, wise and stupid. There are countless different types that make you up. It is these that good actors get in touch with, when they play different roles.

Your whole personality can be compared to a cut and polished diamond, which has many faces. Each face of the diamond is individual. It can be seen and identified. But each one is always an integral part of the whole. Each 'face' is a unique, individual 'self'. They have their own history, memories, agendas, desires, emotions and abilities and ways of expressing themselves.

This is the joy of relationship - discovering your own and your partners selves, and letting them express themselves as they wish. It is truly enriching and fulfilling in ways that are stunning and powerful. It is the path of consciousness.

As you read this, there are several selves within you reading along with the part of you which is 'out front' doing the reading. And, there are dozens more, existing deeply within you, motivating you and causing you to make choices which will either allow them expression, or ensure they stay buried. To know your Self, you have to know your 'selves' first.

By the way, this is nothing to do with a split personality, which is a clinical condition, usually based on severe trauma in childhood. No, it is the normal state of every human being. We are all made up of many selves. The problem is that few people are aware of it, they believe that they are just one personality. But this is the cause of all confusions in relationships. Knowing otherwise, through direct experience, is the ever enriching experience of a great relationship.

Getting to know these parts, integrating and embracing them, is the key to not only a completely fulfilling life, but also the highest state of spiritual enlightenment. Not knowing them is an unwise way to live, because your life will be limited, your personal relationships unfulfilling, and your creative and spiritual powers blocked and sabotaged. You will be using up a lot of energy to suppress the disowned selves, and that will make you less attractive. The word attractive has attr - active in it. To be attractive, you have to have an active energy system. It is your energy which attracts other people to you, and keeps them there.

And yet it is so simple to make profound and ecstatic changes, once you understand that you are far more than you have ever considered yourself to be. Knowledge of the true form of your personality is the essential means to ensure your relationships will be fulfilling, filled with respect and love, and continue to grow in a way that is necessary for life long pleasure, and insight into the true nature of what you are.

QUIZ: Discover your Disowned Selves

We all hide parts of ourselves from our own consciousness. It is the normal way of growing up in a civilised society. Some modes of expression are too confronting or difficult for others to handle. Some are just unacceptable. We quickly learn which these are and to bury them, as we all want and need to be accepted, especially when we are small children. But these disowned selves - all those parts of our personality we were not allowed to express - still live within us, calling out for recognition and consciousness. How we deal with them is the secret to a successful and fulfilling relationship.

The simplest way to reveal what it is that you are burying within yourself, is by examining your outside life. Because what holds emotion for you externally is often buried internally. And sometimes many of these can hold very strong feelings, opinions and emotions.

Here is a simple quiz you can do, to discover your disowned selves:

Describe the characteristics of:

Your best friend who is not your partner.........

The person who you most respect in life..........

The person you get on best with at work..........

The person who irritates you the most at work............

The person in life who has really rubbed you the wrong way..........

The people whose behaviours you find immoral or disgraceful..........

The person who has confronted you the most...........

The person you are romantically or physically attracted to ..........

Your closest relationship............

Each of these is in actual fact a representative of a disowned part of yourself. You are drawn to such people in your life as a means of attempting to integrate these suppressed selves. All of us need to learn to accept these parts of ourselves. If we don't, we will keep attracting into our lives people who will live them for us. We are all made up of everything. Accepting this, and being able to embrace a

nd direct all these selves, is the easiest means of discovering your true Self.

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Issue 10 April 2004

DECISION MAKING AND VOICE DIALOGUE
by
Hal Stone, PhD and Sidra Stone, PhD

Decision making is something that we all have to do over and over again in our lives. Some decisions are easy to make and others are filled with conflict. In a partnering relationship it gets even more complex because the conflict is not just inside of us. It also exists between the two people who are living together.

The first thing to realize is that most decisions that we make come from our primary selves. These are the selves that we identify with in the growing up process and eventually they represent our personality and how we express ourselves in the world and how others see us in the world. If you grow up and become an achiever and a mental person, these primary selves love to buy books, invest time, energy and money in learning and achieving and generally value people who show similar personality traits. Conversely, when they meet someone who is their opposite, they generally judge that person for being lazy and unfocused or in some cases are irrevocably attracted to that person. It is generally the primary selves that do the judging for us.

Imagine that you grow up in a family that is very tight and stingy about spending money. They also don’t like to take risks and you rebel against this kind of behavior and become someone to loves to spend money, who loves to travel and who loves to take risks in life. You are going to make very different choices from those that your family made. Your primary self system is going to behave differently in the world than their primary self system.

What we need to learn how to do in decision making is to begin to hear the voice on the other side, to hear the voice of the disowned self. This is very hard to do so long as you are married to the primary self because from this place your choices seem natural to you. The fact is that the vast majority of choices that people make aren’t really choices at all! A choice requires a conflict between at least two different alternatives. Conflict in decision making is a very positive thing because it means that we are conscious of alternatives and don’t know what to do or which way to go.

Imagine that John goes to a computer store and and falls in love with the new Mac Powerbook. His primary self is in ecstacy as he sits down and uses it. He has a strong mind, a good deal of technical capability in regard to computers and a strong need to achieve success and mastery over the world around him. He has a good job and enough money to live the good life but without having independent income or much in savings. He is free about spending money, very much the opposite of his family of origin. His primary self is more Mediterranean and his parents’ primary self system is more Germanic.

In this situation John says to himself “I choose” to buy this computer and so he buys it. There is a nagging feeling in him that something is off – as though his stomach feels strange, but he is not used to feeling anxious. He is a “can do” person and so he takes his new computer home.

From our psycho-spiritual perspective, we would say that John didn’t buy the computer. How is this possible? We just said that he did buy the computer. To be more accurate, it wasn’t John who bought the computer. It was his primary self system that bought it. There was no choice involved. This is the way that decision making is done most of the time. We are not saying that decisions made this way are bad. We are saying that generally they are not conscious decisions because there is no real experience of opposites.

To have choice there must be opposites. To have choice we must stand between at least two alternatives and this is the job of the Aware Ego. It is the Aware Ego process that is the goal of the Voice Dialogue work. It is the development of a state of consciousness, a way of viewing the world that develops as we separate from our primary selves and learn to embrace our disowned selves – not become them but simply embrace them.

That night John dreams that he is wandering among homeless people in the city where he lives. They are without money, without sustenance and he feels deeply their hopelessness. He awakens from the dream feeling quite anxious and suddenly he recognizes the feeling in his stomach that he has always rejected. He suddenly feels the disowned self. He feels his vulnerability in the world, his fears about not making it that he long ago repressed.

John now begins to stand between the opposites. He feels the part of him that desperately desires and loves this new and shiny and remarkable laptop. Now he also feels the disowned self. Can he really afford to spend another $2,500 plus another $500 to a thousand for assorted software and other goodies. He feels both sides. It is the Aware Ego that has the capacity to feel both sides.

Now John begins to understand why his girlfriend is so unhappy with him about the way he spends money and why she she keeps saying that she doesn’t feel safe with him. She is simply expressing to him what he has not allowed himself to feel – the voice of the other side. This is the gift of relationship that the intelligence of the universe has provided for each of us in our lives, once we understand the selves and know how they work.

There is no right and wrong in all this. As psychotherapists we have no idea as to whether he should buy the computer or not buy the computer. It is none of our business – Thank God. Our job is to help him come to this ability to feel opposites and the willingness to live with this conflict until a natural resolution occurs.

To live between opposites is to learn to live with the ambiguities of life. It is the ability to hold the tension of opposites until the Aware Ego process becomes sufficiently strong that a decision occurs organically and in a way that is so natural that it hardly feels like a decision. This is one of the deeper goals of Voice Dialogue and dream work.

Sometimes we have to make immediate decisions but our experience is that the sense of immediacy is more a product of the extraverted and fast moving pace of western culture. We simply have never valued, nor had a reason to value, the ability to “sweat” the opposites. We can assure you that the rewards are great.

Always keep in mind that knowledge is the province of the primary self system. Wisdom however belongs to the province of the Aware Ego, to the ability to “not know”, to the willingness to feel as well as understand both sides of the decision making process.

Voice Dialogue Tips Archive (Issues 6-10)

Voice Dialogue Tips Archive
(Issues 6-10)